Strong enough to surrender?
Often I am impressed by the power of surrender and the level of strength it takes to do it.
As I have been mentored by some very experienced Doms/Dommes I come to understand that the most critical aspect in the power exchange relationship is the psychological aspect. No matter what a Dom/Domme or sub states as their essential piece of the power exchange the mental aspect is essential. This is the basis for trust. Trust is the most important step to take. Think about it, if there is no trust between parties then how do they open enough to surrender?
I believe each side of the "slash" must surrender-- Dommes/Doms must surrender to the responsibility of holding space for the submission/service. To the ephemeral nature of such a weight as willing submission. To the knowledge that We need/desire/crave the hunger of a submissive to be directed/ordered/controlled.
The sub/slave must surrender to the desire of a Dommes/Doms control. Often it is so very hard for subs/slaves to surrender to their own need/desire/craving for the control of a Superior. Imagine how vulnerable a sub/slave must be to admit wanting/needing/craving a collar? How that "orders" their world and validates what they know is their place?
Only to the extent that entities can be open with one another is the extent to which they can trust each other, and thus get to the depth of personal experience/expression. It is no small thing to surrender. To truly surrender requires trust. To trust requires a knowing when you fall there is a safe place to land-- mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Openness and trust are lock and key in a relationship-- all relationships.
As I have been mentored by some very experienced Doms/Dommes I come to understand that the most critical aspect in the power exchange relationship is the psychological aspect. No matter what a Dom/Domme or sub states as their essential piece of the power exchange the mental aspect is essential. This is the basis for trust. Trust is the most important step to take. Think about it, if there is no trust between parties then how do they open enough to surrender?
I believe each side of the "slash" must surrender-- Dommes/Doms must surrender to the responsibility of holding space for the submission/service. To the ephemeral nature of such a weight as willing submission. To the knowledge that We need/desire/crave the hunger of a submissive to be directed/ordered/controlled.
The sub/slave must surrender to the desire of a Dommes/Doms control. Often it is so very hard for subs/slaves to surrender to their own need/desire/craving for the control of a Superior. Imagine how vulnerable a sub/slave must be to admit wanting/needing/craving a collar? How that "orders" their world and validates what they know is their place?
Only to the extent that entities can be open with one another is the extent to which they can trust each other, and thus get to the depth of personal experience/expression. It is no small thing to surrender. To truly surrender requires trust. To trust requires a knowing when you fall there is a safe place to land-- mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. Openness and trust are lock and key in a relationship-- all relationships.
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