My own mom
So my mate has this friend that has a few modules in Uni with him. I've only met this guy 4-5 times when he was hanging out with my mate at his place or at parties in the Uni and things like that. During one of the parties around Christmas time last year when I had met him briefly I got to know he had met this older woman on POF and that he had been chatting her up for over a month and she had finally said yes to meeting him for coffee. We laughed about how it took him over a month to get a woman to even say yes for coffee. He didn't say much at that and the topic moved on.
Met him again a few weeks after the New Years early this year when he was at my mates house. He had come to borrow his car as his had broken down. Got to know there that he had scored with that woman. After a couple of meetings she had finally said yes to go out on an official 'date' with him. My mate and I did have quite a laugh about the fact that it took him so long to get go on a 'date'. He just said she had her reasons but he didn't mind because she was insanely hot and he didn't mind waiting. And obviously it had paid off too, now that he had scored with her and has had her for a few weeks by that point. He even showed off that he was just as hot in bed as she looks, which we dismissed as bragging. And he then brought up bowworing my mate's car again was because he was taking her out of town for lunch and then they'd be going back to his place. He asked him to make sure not to scratch the car and all that and gave him the keys and he left.
I didn't come across him for a few months after that and the next time was this past Saturday in a pub at the campus. He had just returned from a Holiday to Barcelona where he went with his girlfriend. He was quite drunk by the time we met him as he was there with some of his other friends. I was surprised to know that he was still with that woman. So I asked him about it, he said it started as a fling but then he had started catching feelings for her. She was reluctant about it and even started acting distant, but then came around herself and eventually admitted he had feelings for him as well. Now this is where he got a bit serious (maybe due to the drinks) and started talking about how he would flirt with her in the beginning how she finally said yes to date him and how they started fucking and all that and started thanking my mate for lending him his car a couple of times. He then revealed that the reason he doesn't talk about it is that he feels everyone would judge him for dating a married woman. This is caught out attention and we asked for more details now.
He told us how she felt she was in a monotonous and boring marriage but didn't want to cheat. Initially she was just looking to talk to someone just for the thrill of it, but hadn't thought about actually meeting anyone. He obviously was happy to match with a hot older woman and just wanted to shag a MILF. He knew she had a son in the same Uni as him but year below him (I had to repeat a couple of modules in my 1st year so I'm a year behind). That didn't matter to him obviously. But it explained the reason why it took him so long to get her to date him. Then it soon turned into a proper affair rather than just a fling on the side. But when he had confessed to her that he had developed feelings for her, she shut him down about that saying she is married and has a son and can't leave her husband and things like that. IT didn't affect their affair in the beginning. However when he started really expressing his feelings to her and getting a bit possessive about her having to go back to her husband, she said she started making distance. Then apparently he started to say no to 'meeting' her as they had started to regularly. This went on for a couple of months and eventually she got back with him and confessed that she too, in fact, had developed feelings for him. In fact she had even confessed about it to her sister, who obviously didn't approve and advised her to stay away from this relationship. Which was apparently why she had started to maintain her distance from him. Now that she had accepted she too had feelings for him they were back at it. She had eventually told her sister about this too. He had started to get possessive again and started asking her to leave her husband and come live with him, but she had told him she can't just leave her husband and family suddenly. But she had assured him that they would figure something out about it. They had then started dating more openly and even coming out about being together to a couple of his other friends. The friends he was with before we met him at the pub had all met his girlfriend and they were the ones who had suggested them to take a trip together so they can be with each other without worrying about anything else. This was the Spain trip which he had just returned from.
Now this story seemed too surreal to us both until he said that she was going to be his date at their Graduation Ceremony (which was earlier today) and he wanted my mate who was graduating with him to meet her too. Since I am a year behind I obviously couldn't attend the graduation this year. He told us that she had told her husband she was needed to be at her sister's place as she needed help taking care of herself and the k**s because she was ill and her husband is out of country for those 2 days so she'll be going there. But instead she'd be staying with him at his place.
So, a lad getting lucky with a MILF was kinda cool for him, so we decided not to judge him for being with a married woman. Then comes today, the day of their graduation ceremony. Neither me or my mate had any of this in mind till this morning when he left for the ceremony. He was excited about graduating and getting back to working at the company he was doing his placement year at. I was obviously about my mate graduating so come this evening, I was bored at home and thought to login on facebook and see is anyone had uploaded pictures from the ceremony yet. Obviously my whole timline was filled with graduation picutres. Liking and congratulating everyone on their pictures. I came across a post where my mate was tagged in. IT was a post from that guy and I got a shock that I cannot explain, to see my mom in the picture with his arms around her waist. I quickly opened his profile and saw a fw more pics of today with both of them and even a picutre of them kissing. The comments and captions obviously indicating that she was his girlfriend and how happy he was that he was finally able to share their relationship with his friends. Obviously mom had told dad earlier that she needed to be at my aunt's house to look after her and the k**s since she is recovering from jaundice and her husband is not in the country for 2 days.
It has been a few hours since I've seen those pics and got to know all that, and I really don't know what to do. My mind isn't working at all. I tried calling my mate but his phone is off, probably out of battery as usual. Tried calling mom just to confirm where she was, she didn't pick up. Called back after a couple of minutes and said she was at Auntie's place. I asked what time did she reach, she said she's been there since the morning. I didn't know what to say next, so just made an excuse that dad was calling me for dinner and wished her good night and disconnected. Now at a loss of what else to do I thought of writing all of it here to see if talking about it online helps decide what my next step should be. Sorry if the post is too long.
Met him again a few weeks after the New Years early this year when he was at my mates house. He had come to borrow his car as his had broken down. Got to know there that he had scored with that woman. After a couple of meetings she had finally said yes to go out on an official 'date' with him. My mate and I did have quite a laugh about the fact that it took him so long to get go on a 'date'. He just said she had her reasons but he didn't mind because she was insanely hot and he didn't mind waiting. And obviously it had paid off too, now that he had scored with her and has had her for a few weeks by that point. He even showed off that he was just as hot in bed as she looks, which we dismissed as bragging. And he then brought up bowworing my mate's car again was because he was taking her out of town for lunch and then they'd be going back to his place. He asked him to make sure not to scratch the car and all that and gave him the keys and he left.
I didn't come across him for a few months after that and the next time was this past Saturday in a pub at the campus. He had just returned from a Holiday to Barcelona where he went with his girlfriend. He was quite drunk by the time we met him as he was there with some of his other friends. I was surprised to know that he was still with that woman. So I asked him about it, he said it started as a fling but then he had started catching feelings for her. She was reluctant about it and even started acting distant, but then came around herself and eventually admitted he had feelings for him as well. Now this is where he got a bit serious (maybe due to the drinks) and started talking about how he would flirt with her in the beginning how she finally said yes to date him and how they started fucking and all that and started thanking my mate for lending him his car a couple of times. He then revealed that the reason he doesn't talk about it is that he feels everyone would judge him for dating a married woman. This is caught out attention and we asked for more details now.
He told us how she felt she was in a monotonous and boring marriage but didn't want to cheat. Initially she was just looking to talk to someone just for the thrill of it, but hadn't thought about actually meeting anyone. He obviously was happy to match with a hot older woman and just wanted to shag a MILF. He knew she had a son in the same Uni as him but year below him (I had to repeat a couple of modules in my 1st year so I'm a year behind). That didn't matter to him obviously. But it explained the reason why it took him so long to get her to date him. Then it soon turned into a proper affair rather than just a fling on the side. But when he had confessed to her that he had developed feelings for her, she shut him down about that saying she is married and has a son and can't leave her husband and things like that. IT didn't affect their affair in the beginning. However when he started really expressing his feelings to her and getting a bit possessive about her having to go back to her husband, she said she started making distance. Then apparently he started to say no to 'meeting' her as they had started to regularly. This went on for a couple of months and eventually she got back with him and confessed that she too, in fact, had developed feelings for him. In fact she had even confessed about it to her sister, who obviously didn't approve and advised her to stay away from this relationship. Which was apparently why she had started to maintain her distance from him. Now that she had accepted she too had feelings for him they were back at it. She had eventually told her sister about this too. He had started to get possessive again and started asking her to leave her husband and come live with him, but she had told him she can't just leave her husband and family suddenly. But she had assured him that they would figure something out about it. They had then started dating more openly and even coming out about being together to a couple of his other friends. The friends he was with before we met him at the pub had all met his girlfriend and they were the ones who had suggested them to take a trip together so they can be with each other without worrying about anything else. This was the Spain trip which he had just returned from.
Now this story seemed too surreal to us both until he said that she was going to be his date at their Graduation Ceremony (which was earlier today) and he wanted my mate who was graduating with him to meet her too. Since I am a year behind I obviously couldn't attend the graduation this year. He told us that she had told her husband she was needed to be at her sister's place as she needed help taking care of herself and the k**s because she was ill and her husband is out of country for those 2 days so she'll be going there. But instead she'd be staying with him at his place.
So, a lad getting lucky with a MILF was kinda cool for him, so we decided not to judge him for being with a married woman. Then comes today, the day of their graduation ceremony. Neither me or my mate had any of this in mind till this morning when he left for the ceremony. He was excited about graduating and getting back to working at the company he was doing his placement year at. I was obviously about my mate graduating so come this evening, I was bored at home and thought to login on facebook and see is anyone had uploaded pictures from the ceremony yet. Obviously my whole timline was filled with graduation picutres. Liking and congratulating everyone on their pictures. I came across a post where my mate was tagged in. IT was a post from that guy and I got a shock that I cannot explain, to see my mom in the picture with his arms around her waist. I quickly opened his profile and saw a fw more pics of today with both of them and even a picutre of them kissing. The comments and captions obviously indicating that she was his girlfriend and how happy he was that he was finally able to share their relationship with his friends. Obviously mom had told dad earlier that she needed to be at my aunt's house to look after her and the k**s since she is recovering from jaundice and her husband is not in the country for 2 days.
It has been a few hours since I've seen those pics and got to know all that, and I really don't know what to do. My mind isn't working at all. I tried calling my mate but his phone is off, probably out of battery as usual. Tried calling mom just to confirm where she was, she didn't pick up. Called back after a couple of minutes and said she was at Auntie's place. I asked what time did she reach, she said she's been there since the morning. I didn't know what to say next, so just made an excuse that dad was calling me for dinner and wished her good night and disconnected. Now at a loss of what else to do I thought of writing all of it here to see if talking about it online helps decide what my next step should be. Sorry if the post is too long.
6 年 前
Clearly, your allegiances are divided here and I understand the distress you feel. Mom is a big girl and Dad is a big boy; you don't know the details of their relationship as they know them. Stay out of it.
The best you can do is let the scene play itself out. Nothing you can do here but make matters worse.
Your parents have lives that don't involve you. There is much that you don't know. Perhaps, they've discussed the situation. Maybe your dad is bangin' some Iberian trollop and your mom is OK with it.
I've been in the same situation. Your best course is to feign complete ignorance and let your folks sort it out for themselves. Say nothing to anyone...ANYONE!!! Not friends, not strangers - certainly not relatives. Stop thinking about it.
Compose your life as if this is something about which you know nothing.
In short, this is how you keep a secret. Even long after it needs to be kept.