TRUE submissives and submission in bdsm.. my sub v
TRUE submissives and submission in bdsm.. my sub view
crazydaisyann
June 5th, 12:26
So i guess everybody has either heard about FIFTY SHADES OF GRAY by now or seen the movie.
If you happened to see it..sorry for being exposed to that piece of garbage that was so full of "that doesnt make sense " moments that at the end you wish to get back the time you spent watching it.
I wish hollywood would stop being such pussies and tip toeing around some subject matter while going overboard with others. Its ok to show a guys head being blown off in a violent horror movie but to talk about or show erotic consensual play is taboo? I call bullshit.
And of course hollywoods version of bdsm is all flash and no substance. So much is left out.
Thats where i come in...to explain...to show you what its REALLY all about.
Forget the fucking black leather,the whips,the chains,the collars and the leashes. Toss that shit aside. That is NOT bdsm. Those are things that ENHANCE play,put you in the mood or help create a mood or mindset but it is NOT bdsm. It is NOT the heart and soul of it. TRUE bdsm starts in the mind. If you are a DOM (or top) you HAVE to know the mind of your sub (or bottom or slave) in order to know what is ok to do and what is not ok. What that persons limitations are. How far they want to go. There HAS to be trust,respect,honor. The sub has to know that whatever is going on they are not in any real danger. That they can just let go and experiance pleasure.
It may take a very long time for the right sub and the right dom to find each other. Sometimes they never find one another but sometimes they do. When it does happen a bond can form that is unbreakable and unbelievably strong.
I am happy to say that i,as a sub,i have a DOM friend that i have known for over 10 years that i have that bond with,and even though i am not in his official service,he and i have been very good friends to one another for a long time and i trust respect and care for him and he does the same to me.
Many years ago we met and played a few times and stayed close friends after that. He has always been there for me and i him. the loyalty of friendship alone is strengthed by the aspect of our dom/sub relationship. For many many years we did not engage in play.
Recently..we did )))
Two weeks ago he had neck surgery to a bone spur and pinched nerve and,due to that surgery, cannot exercise or lift anything heavy. I have been there to help him. Every few days i clean the house and do the laundry and help with errands. I do these things with my whole heart and i get as much pleasure doing them as i would if he had me tied up and flogging me into subspace (for those who have no idea what that is,its a wonderful trance like state) . Thats when you know you have crossed over into the realm of being a TRUE 100 percent submissive. When its not just those moments spent in sexual situations with your dom that you are in bliss..its everything you do with them and for them. Mundane simple things give you pleasure to. Their happiness,comfort and pleasure become yours. As a matter of fact, the things you do to take the burden of their day off their shoulders give you more pleasure then when you DO offically play.
To be a submissive is to serve
To truly be submissive is to surrender...without fear,without worry...to the one who has earned that trust.
To serve is to feel bliss that goes beyond orgasm or any pleasure of the flesh. Orgasms wane away...throbbing flesh cools off...the bond you have with your dom..never ends.
Yes,two days ago i was at his house cleaning everything from top to bottom and happy to do so. I expected nothing in return. All i knew was that he needed my help and i was happy to help out. I cant count the number of times he has helped me..now it was my turn to help him. I got the unexpected bonus and suprise of a WONDERFUL spanking )))) and a good fucking
))))).
Yeah,thats his handywork #notsorry #iwantedthat #LOVEmybruises
Just so we are clear...i LIKE bruises during rough sex or spanking. I DIG them. I LOVE those reminders of a passionate encounter..i think its hot. Yeah..i like intense sex. Passionate sex. I get turned on by it. He knows how to flip those switches in the right order. Hair pulling, hand over the throat,holding me down,spanking....YES PLEASE!!!! Not only am i turned on by what hes doing,but,whats even more of a turn on is the fact that i KNOW he COULD hurt me. Hes bigger, taller,stronger..he could seriously hurt me but he DOESNT. That sense of control..the trust...thats the REAL turn on. The fact that he has the ability to cause me harm and doesnt. I can trust him. That causes so much arousal in me.
I dont have to be on my knees to be his submissive. I dont have to wear a collar to remember my loyalty and devotion to him..or care..or just be there. Collars..leashes...chains...whips....they mean nothing if the bond isnt there. They become as theatrical props. You are play acting a part you know or care nothing about. A true sub is a true sub, collar or no collar. Leash or no leash. Your greatest bliss is not from cumming. Its from your service to someone worthy of it. Someone who understands how precious you are and your service/loyalty/devotion is.
My sir is my sir. There are no other doms in my life and wont be any others. Too many men running around play acting at being a dom and not understanding or respecting the seriousness of what it truly means. To be given the keys to not just another persons body,but their mind and their soul..and if you are play acting,a novice,or just some uninformed asshole you can seriously fuck someone up if you arent careful. It took him a LONG time to get my trust and he has that plus everything else..all because i gave him access to me and he didnt hurt me.
If my sir wanted me on my knees kneeling like a good girl then i would. Kiss his boots? With pleasure. Crawl across the floor? Just tell me when. I am the sub that does things with a whole heart. I dont believe in that being a bratty sub business. Its counter productive. I like making him happy and doing things right. Good intelligent strong subs are always a credit to the ones they serve. Bad ones..a black mark on their name. I am a VERY good sub. I obey and serve without fail. No arguements.
So...in closing..the whole FIFTY SHADES OF GRAY movie...disregard that garbage if you are looking for the truth of what bdsm is all about. You just learned from the lips of a real sub. Someone who is in service to a dom and will always be. Its about loyalty and devotion as much as it is orgasms,whips and chains. Loyalty to your ONE is what binds you,not a leather collar or ropes.
Im out.
crazydaisyann
June 5th, 12:26
So i guess everybody has either heard about FIFTY SHADES OF GRAY by now or seen the movie.
If you happened to see it..sorry for being exposed to that piece of garbage that was so full of "that doesnt make sense " moments that at the end you wish to get back the time you spent watching it.
I wish hollywood would stop being such pussies and tip toeing around some subject matter while going overboard with others. Its ok to show a guys head being blown off in a violent horror movie but to talk about or show erotic consensual play is taboo? I call bullshit.
And of course hollywoods version of bdsm is all flash and no substance. So much is left out.
Thats where i come in...to explain...to show you what its REALLY all about.
Forget the fucking black leather,the whips,the chains,the collars and the leashes. Toss that shit aside. That is NOT bdsm. Those are things that ENHANCE play,put you in the mood or help create a mood or mindset but it is NOT bdsm. It is NOT the heart and soul of it. TRUE bdsm starts in the mind. If you are a DOM (or top) you HAVE to know the mind of your sub (or bottom or slave) in order to know what is ok to do and what is not ok. What that persons limitations are. How far they want to go. There HAS to be trust,respect,honor. The sub has to know that whatever is going on they are not in any real danger. That they can just let go and experiance pleasure.
It may take a very long time for the right sub and the right dom to find each other. Sometimes they never find one another but sometimes they do. When it does happen a bond can form that is unbreakable and unbelievably strong.
I am happy to say that i,as a sub,i have a DOM friend that i have known for over 10 years that i have that bond with,and even though i am not in his official service,he and i have been very good friends to one another for a long time and i trust respect and care for him and he does the same to me.
Many years ago we met and played a few times and stayed close friends after that. He has always been there for me and i him. the loyalty of friendship alone is strengthed by the aspect of our dom/sub relationship. For many many years we did not engage in play.
Recently..we did )))
Two weeks ago he had neck surgery to a bone spur and pinched nerve and,due to that surgery, cannot exercise or lift anything heavy. I have been there to help him. Every few days i clean the house and do the laundry and help with errands. I do these things with my whole heart and i get as much pleasure doing them as i would if he had me tied up and flogging me into subspace (for those who have no idea what that is,its a wonderful trance like state) . Thats when you know you have crossed over into the realm of being a TRUE 100 percent submissive. When its not just those moments spent in sexual situations with your dom that you are in bliss..its everything you do with them and for them. Mundane simple things give you pleasure to. Their happiness,comfort and pleasure become yours. As a matter of fact, the things you do to take the burden of their day off their shoulders give you more pleasure then when you DO offically play.
To be a submissive is to serve
To truly be submissive is to surrender...without fear,without worry...to the one who has earned that trust.
To serve is to feel bliss that goes beyond orgasm or any pleasure of the flesh. Orgasms wane away...throbbing flesh cools off...the bond you have with your dom..never ends.
Yes,two days ago i was at his house cleaning everything from top to bottom and happy to do so. I expected nothing in return. All i knew was that he needed my help and i was happy to help out. I cant count the number of times he has helped me..now it was my turn to help him. I got the unexpected bonus and suprise of a WONDERFUL spanking )))) and a good fucking
))))).
Yeah,thats his handywork #notsorry #iwantedthat #LOVEmybruises
Just so we are clear...i LIKE bruises during rough sex or spanking. I DIG them. I LOVE those reminders of a passionate encounter..i think its hot. Yeah..i like intense sex. Passionate sex. I get turned on by it. He knows how to flip those switches in the right order. Hair pulling, hand over the throat,holding me down,spanking....YES PLEASE!!!! Not only am i turned on by what hes doing,but,whats even more of a turn on is the fact that i KNOW he COULD hurt me. Hes bigger, taller,stronger..he could seriously hurt me but he DOESNT. That sense of control..the trust...thats the REAL turn on. The fact that he has the ability to cause me harm and doesnt. I can trust him. That causes so much arousal in me.
I dont have to be on my knees to be his submissive. I dont have to wear a collar to remember my loyalty and devotion to him..or care..or just be there. Collars..leashes...chains...whips....they mean nothing if the bond isnt there. They become as theatrical props. You are play acting a part you know or care nothing about. A true sub is a true sub, collar or no collar. Leash or no leash. Your greatest bliss is not from cumming. Its from your service to someone worthy of it. Someone who understands how precious you are and your service/loyalty/devotion is.
My sir is my sir. There are no other doms in my life and wont be any others. Too many men running around play acting at being a dom and not understanding or respecting the seriousness of what it truly means. To be given the keys to not just another persons body,but their mind and their soul..and if you are play acting,a novice,or just some uninformed asshole you can seriously fuck someone up if you arent careful. It took him a LONG time to get my trust and he has that plus everything else..all because i gave him access to me and he didnt hurt me.
If my sir wanted me on my knees kneeling like a good girl then i would. Kiss his boots? With pleasure. Crawl across the floor? Just tell me when. I am the sub that does things with a whole heart. I dont believe in that being a bratty sub business. Its counter productive. I like making him happy and doing things right. Good intelligent strong subs are always a credit to the ones they serve. Bad ones..a black mark on their name. I am a VERY good sub. I obey and serve without fail. No arguements.
So...in closing..the whole FIFTY SHADES OF GRAY movie...disregard that garbage if you are looking for the truth of what bdsm is all about. You just learned from the lips of a real sub. Someone who is in service to a dom and will always be. Its about loyalty and devotion as much as it is orgasms,whips and chains. Loyalty to your ONE is what binds you,not a leather collar or ropes.
Im out.
7 年 前
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