What Does Having Friends on XRMXX Even Mean?
So, uh, this has been something I've always had an issue with in regards to XRMXX and I guess socializing on a pornsite in general as far as this concept goes. This kind of question will give a whole variety of different answers and reasons depending on the person and how they value such things. However, to me, it's always has and always will puzzle me greatly on this site.
What does it mean, to you, to add someone as a friend on XRMXX? Why do you do it? What do you get out of it?
You look around XRMXX profiles and the average person will have over 300 friends added. Some have up to 1,000. Others can have up to 4,000. And even higher than that. It is almost impossible to literally befriend over 100 real life people with constant contacting and interaction. Good luck trying to keep a stable, interactive and actual friendship with over 300 or even 1,000 other people. Even if it is through the Internet and text based messaging, it's unrealistic. The human brain can only store so much information without catching on fire and exploding. You'd be stressed out beyond belief trying to talk to so many people daily...
Then why? Why do people on their profiles have over 300 to over 4,000 friends added on XRMXX? What is the point? What is the reasoning behind it?
Is it a numbers game? To add as many as you can just to see the numbers go up? Do you not really care about the individual you're adding?
Is it to keep tabs on specific people so you don't have to bookmark their profile to whatever Internet browser you're using? So you can just have a quick click to their profile to see their uploads/favorites?
Is it because you have that slight similar interest in them and that makes them seem cool? But a week or so later, you just end up forgetting about them or not even contacting them rendering the whole thing pointless, so... why?
I've had someone who wanted to add me as a friend for the sole reason because they liked my profile picture and they like anime. That's it. Okay. What does that have to do with me, though? Why add me? There's nothing else that I offer that interests or warrants discussion or interaction between us so then... why?
I just fail to completely understand. I can't wrap my head around it at all.
It's not very often that people add me on here anyway, but every time I see an invite on the screen, I get puzzling thoughts in my head. Especially if it's a female user. I don't have any uploads of myself on my profile so nothing is showing me or displaying me in any way or shape possible. No images and no videos of myself. I mostly just favorite stuff on here and rarely upload, so if people want to add me as a friend for those rare times that I upload something... then why don't they just use the subscribe feature? At least then you'll know if I upload something. It's there for a reason. I get people wanting to keep tabs on my favorites or whatever; a lot of people do that around here it seems... or at least that's my main assumption. But you don't have to add me as a friend to do that... And nothing I upload or favorite is locked behind such privacy options that require friend status to even look at.
*Sigh*
Look, nobody is reading this. Why would they when they could be spending better time masturbating to their favorite genres and content? I suppose I just wanted to vent and express my confusion about this whole "friends" thing on XRMXX and what it even truly stands for... This isn't YouTube where friends = subscribers and gettin' dat YouTube money. I just... I don't know... For how little interaction I get around this site, I fail to see why I have any friends here at all. I only talk to like one person somewhat daily at out of the 96 (as of this post) friends I currently have... Why do people even want to bother with me at all in the first place anyway? I'm sure this blog post (if anyone bothers to read it at all) will have pissed off any of the people that I currently have as friends and want to unfriend me. Which is fine. Understandable. I expect it and say I had it coming...
What does it mean, to you, to add someone as a friend on XRMXX? Why do you do it? What do you get out of it?
You look around XRMXX profiles and the average person will have over 300 friends added. Some have up to 1,000. Others can have up to 4,000. And even higher than that. It is almost impossible to literally befriend over 100 real life people with constant contacting and interaction. Good luck trying to keep a stable, interactive and actual friendship with over 300 or even 1,000 other people. Even if it is through the Internet and text based messaging, it's unrealistic. The human brain can only store so much information without catching on fire and exploding. You'd be stressed out beyond belief trying to talk to so many people daily...
Then why? Why do people on their profiles have over 300 to over 4,000 friends added on XRMXX? What is the point? What is the reasoning behind it?
Is it a numbers game? To add as many as you can just to see the numbers go up? Do you not really care about the individual you're adding?
Is it to keep tabs on specific people so you don't have to bookmark their profile to whatever Internet browser you're using? So you can just have a quick click to their profile to see their uploads/favorites?
Is it because you have that slight similar interest in them and that makes them seem cool? But a week or so later, you just end up forgetting about them or not even contacting them rendering the whole thing pointless, so... why?
I've had someone who wanted to add me as a friend for the sole reason because they liked my profile picture and they like anime. That's it. Okay. What does that have to do with me, though? Why add me? There's nothing else that I offer that interests or warrants discussion or interaction between us so then... why?
I just fail to completely understand. I can't wrap my head around it at all.
It's not very often that people add me on here anyway, but every time I see an invite on the screen, I get puzzling thoughts in my head. Especially if it's a female user. I don't have any uploads of myself on my profile so nothing is showing me or displaying me in any way or shape possible. No images and no videos of myself. I mostly just favorite stuff on here and rarely upload, so if people want to add me as a friend for those rare times that I upload something... then why don't they just use the subscribe feature? At least then you'll know if I upload something. It's there for a reason. I get people wanting to keep tabs on my favorites or whatever; a lot of people do that around here it seems... or at least that's my main assumption. But you don't have to add me as a friend to do that... And nothing I upload or favorite is locked behind such privacy options that require friend status to even look at.
*Sigh*
Look, nobody is reading this. Why would they when they could be spending better time masturbating to their favorite genres and content? I suppose I just wanted to vent and express my confusion about this whole "friends" thing on XRMXX and what it even truly stands for... This isn't YouTube where friends = subscribers and gettin' dat YouTube money. I just... I don't know... For how little interaction I get around this site, I fail to see why I have any friends here at all. I only talk to like one person somewhat daily at out of the 96 (as of this post) friends I currently have... Why do people even want to bother with me at all in the first place anyway? I'm sure this blog post (if anyone bothers to read it at all) will have pissed off any of the people that I currently have as friends and want to unfriend me. Which is fine. Understandable. I expect it and say I had it coming...
8 年 前
And another word of advice, you got to stop with the self deprecation. It's a huge negative.
While I would appreciate some form of interaction from the majority on my friends list, I'm not expecting constant attention every single day. I'm fine with chatting once every week or two weeks like on an acquaintance level of friendship. It just bothers me when someone adds and there is nothing going on for months and months. I just question as to what the point even was at that point other than to keep tabs on my profile or whatever.
I'm not trying to guilt or coax people at all. I know my personality is nothing exciting or even interesting. Which is why I question it and why anyone would bother with me. But again, it just seems like most people who add friends on XRMXX just want to keep tabs on profiles than to interact. That much, yes, I will just have to learn to accept over time.
Why? Does it bother you when other people have long friend lists?
"I've tried interacting and most of the time it just results in messages being read, but never bothering to reply back"
I think this statement is very telling, and maybe it's what you're really trying to get at in this blog post. What you really want is for everyone on your friends list to notice you and explicitly tell you that they want to be your friend. That doesn't always happen on social media, you're just going to have to accept that. Some people will reply to your messages and interact with you, some people won't. It happens to everyone, and you shouldn't take it personally.
I think we've had this conversation before, but you need stop doing that weird thing where you tell people that you don't deserve to be friends with them. I think what you're doing is you're trying to guilt or coax people into telling you that they want to be friends. It's not an attractive behavior, it's going to backfire, and people will start to actively dislike you. I think you'll have much better responses from people once you drop the whole "why would you want to be my friend?" routine.
I can understand the joy of having your profile appear in a vast amount of different XRMXX users, but at the same time there has to be a hard limit and some form of standard. You can't just be willing to add every single person. And as someone who rarely uploads content and mostly favorites stuff, it doesn't really mean much for me to have more traffic coming to my profile. Unless I were to man up and put up my own content of myself or something...
Also, more friends means more traffic on your xhamster account.
The only justification I can see for that is as you said, having fans and if you're an original content creator and upload frequently, then it makes sense to has as many fans (friends) as you can get and play the numbers game. Which, if that is the obvious goal and intention, is OK even if it is a bit inappropriate of what the feature is actually intended for.
I want to say most of the people who have wanted to add me as a friend on here is mainly because of the the content on my profile; possibly towards my favorites more than my uploads considering how little I have uploaded. And that's... fine, I guess. It makes sense if that's how people want to keep tabs on my profile. And I've never really see it as potential dates DESPITE profiles and users being under the "DATING" tab of XRMXX's browsing site. Kind of ironic.
But at least you've got a set rule as to how you approach users and friend requests. Though if I decided to remove people I don't talk to or see online for a long time, then I'd probably have a minimum of 10 friends at the moment.
But seriously I´ve sort of always wondered about this type of thing too. I guess this might be a little different but people do this on video games all the time.. Like why friend people when you have zero intention of playing anything with them or even ever talking to them at all ? Like sure as the receiver of the friend request it can be nice to have people acknowledge your existence or think that maybe the person actually liked something about you and weren´t just randomly trying to friend you.. ( jeez.. that sounded more sad than I thought it would ;-; ) But what can the person accumulating all of these friends really get out of it ? Other than seeing a number increase
Other times, people could just like the content on a profile. Favorites, even. The stuff liked. And when they see that friend online, one could possibly think "Oh, they're going to post or favorite more cool stuff I like" And if they're feeling up to it, socialize with them and talk about more porn and share more. Maybe eventually becoming actual friends and talk about life and hobbies.
And another reason could be potential dates. But I don't see or hear a lot about people using the site as a dating platform, but the options are there, so I assume it's happening.
Those are the most common reasons I can think of. I hardly ever send friend requests myself and only accept if they got nice content, even favorites at least, or could potentially be a new chatter. After a while, I remove people I don't talk to or see come online for a long time