MoreThanTwo
I have read many comments here about MMF, FFM, and more. Some people with whom I chat ask question. I think that many women, of a wide variety, have curiosity and even desire to participate but may have certain hesitations. My own dozens of experiences—some long term relationships, some one-nighters--during four decades prove this point and show some similarities. Maybe I have had more than my share. Very important: being comfortable with and sensitive to each other, knowing limits and preferences, not being pushy (except, perhaps, where role playing), and wanting to both give and receive joy and pleasure. It’s not the size of the instrument; it’s how well you play it!
My first was as a senior in college with two coeds—Japanese and Caucasian roommates, whom I met in the cafeteria—a few times over a year (including sometimes with a boyfriend of the Caucasian). A couple years later, with two blond sorority sisters from another university during summer classes where we met; one night, we all had a bit of weed and couple drinks and danced in the rain before getting to their apartment. A couple years later, two female graduate students (friends of friend) from out of town stayed at my apartment the night before an abortion for one of them; needless to say, we had no need for condoms that night. Later that year, my date (a nurse) and I visited a buddy one evening; a massage soon turned into an unexpected and wonderful MMF, which she wanted to repeat. (He and I often wound up in MMFs or MMFFs after that.) Another memorable time was when I befriended seven “religious beggars” (all in their 20’s and dressed in their robes) in our downtown area (medium sized city) who needed a place, other than their van, to sleep that night; after we stopped at a grocery for food to prepare at my large apartment, had showered, and eaten, two of the women “paid” me back that night. One wonderful night was when my long time but part-time bi-lover (yeah, she enjoyed another woman sometimes) took me to a party with several (about 11—there was one more woman than there were men) others which included an outdoor hot tub. Other times the others and I already had known each other and later remained friends for years. Sometimes I was a happy “third wheel” to a couple; once was a burly construction/architect manager and his petite wife who both took a liking to me at an open house. Another time began with us in a sauna with another couple we already knew. Oh, uninhibited joy and and wild fucking and sucking! So, be open to possibilities. They are out there.
The women involved over these decades ranged from professionals (doctor, nurse, lawyer, CPA, social worker, engineer, school teacher, etc.) to secretary, military officer, corporate executive, ski instructor, sale clerk, computer geek, office worker, bank manager, realtor, governmental official, waitress, and college students, etc.), included all races (everything from very white to mixed to Caribbean or Pacific Islander natives to dark black to Asian), were lovely to plain, and ranged in age from late teens to 50’s. In general, they possessed a certain joy of life, confidence (or at least curiosity), or intelligence. So, it seems that many more women—single and attached--engage in these affairs than openly admit to them
All—some at first hesitant, some immediately fully into the action—sure seemed to enjoy the encounters; some even shared breakfast the next morning. Not every time did a woman accede to the idea, and that was fine too; remember, don’t be pushy and do be sensitive. One woman, after a few conversations, agreed and discovered that her reluctance had been from fears which were not well-founded. A few other women took the initiative and asked to bring in another man or woman. Some women fear that doing do will encourage her man to have other lovers; but that fear is unfounded: they just fail to realize that her man obtains huge satisfaction from just seeing his lady with another man (that she is, indeed, attractive to other men—something which she herself may want to establish) and that her man does not take it as permission to fuck another woman. Long before we got married, my now wife, after viewing some videos and discussing with me, finally wanted another man to join us. Let her, if possible, choose who the third (or the couple) will be; she wants and deserves some power into the decision. Separate love and sex; both elements are wonderful but not always necessary to the other one. Acceptance of each other and of the moment, good verbal and non-verbal communications, openness to try new experiences, and a lack of jealousy were always necessary ingredients in this mixture. As one lady remarked, “wow, that was fun.”
My first was as a senior in college with two coeds—Japanese and Caucasian roommates, whom I met in the cafeteria—a few times over a year (including sometimes with a boyfriend of the Caucasian). A couple years later, with two blond sorority sisters from another university during summer classes where we met; one night, we all had a bit of weed and couple drinks and danced in the rain before getting to their apartment. A couple years later, two female graduate students (friends of friend) from out of town stayed at my apartment the night before an abortion for one of them; needless to say, we had no need for condoms that night. Later that year, my date (a nurse) and I visited a buddy one evening; a massage soon turned into an unexpected and wonderful MMF, which she wanted to repeat. (He and I often wound up in MMFs or MMFFs after that.) Another memorable time was when I befriended seven “religious beggars” (all in their 20’s and dressed in their robes) in our downtown area (medium sized city) who needed a place, other than their van, to sleep that night; after we stopped at a grocery for food to prepare at my large apartment, had showered, and eaten, two of the women “paid” me back that night. One wonderful night was when my long time but part-time bi-lover (yeah, she enjoyed another woman sometimes) took me to a party with several (about 11—there was one more woman than there were men) others which included an outdoor hot tub. Other times the others and I already had known each other and later remained friends for years. Sometimes I was a happy “third wheel” to a couple; once was a burly construction/architect manager and his petite wife who both took a liking to me at an open house. Another time began with us in a sauna with another couple we already knew. Oh, uninhibited joy and and wild fucking and sucking! So, be open to possibilities. They are out there.
The women involved over these decades ranged from professionals (doctor, nurse, lawyer, CPA, social worker, engineer, school teacher, etc.) to secretary, military officer, corporate executive, ski instructor, sale clerk, computer geek, office worker, bank manager, realtor, governmental official, waitress, and college students, etc.), included all races (everything from very white to mixed to Caribbean or Pacific Islander natives to dark black to Asian), were lovely to plain, and ranged in age from late teens to 50’s. In general, they possessed a certain joy of life, confidence (or at least curiosity), or intelligence. So, it seems that many more women—single and attached--engage in these affairs than openly admit to them
All—some at first hesitant, some immediately fully into the action—sure seemed to enjoy the encounters; some even shared breakfast the next morning. Not every time did a woman accede to the idea, and that was fine too; remember, don’t be pushy and do be sensitive. One woman, after a few conversations, agreed and discovered that her reluctance had been from fears which were not well-founded. A few other women took the initiative and asked to bring in another man or woman. Some women fear that doing do will encourage her man to have other lovers; but that fear is unfounded: they just fail to realize that her man obtains huge satisfaction from just seeing his lady with another man (that she is, indeed, attractive to other men—something which she herself may want to establish) and that her man does not take it as permission to fuck another woman. Long before we got married, my now wife, after viewing some videos and discussing with me, finally wanted another man to join us. Let her, if possible, choose who the third (or the couple) will be; she wants and deserves some power into the decision. Separate love and sex; both elements are wonderful but not always necessary to the other one. Acceptance of each other and of the moment, good verbal and non-verbal communications, openness to try new experiences, and a lack of jealousy were always necessary ingredients in this mixture. As one lady remarked, “wow, that was fun.”
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